Posts Tagged ‘Litigation Strategy’

Using the court’s contempt powers to stop visitation interference

There are some custodial parents who are unreasonably resistant to the other parent’s relationship with their child(ren). Often such parents will manipulate and maneuver to prevent the other parent from exercising his or her (because custody typically goes to mothers, primary his) visitation. However, proper application of the family court’s contempt powers can stop such […]

Why it’s a bad idea to leave both spouses on a mortgage after the divorce

Until about a decade ago almost everyone had equity in their home. When home-owning spouses wanted to end their marriage they would either sell their house and divide the equity or one spouse would refinance the home to get the mortgage out of the other spouse’s name and provide that other spouse some of the […]

The family court judge reads what you write

It continually amazes me that folks fail to realize that the family court judge may ultimately read anything they commit to writing and hit send. Often these folks have been long-time participants in the family court system yet they still tend not to grasp this idea. Anyone in family court litigation, or anticipating family court litigation, […]

Visitation schedules for firefighters (or anyone who works 24-hours on/48-hours off)

One can always tell when an attorney has failed to really focus on his or her client when a parent who works a 24-hours on/48-hours off work schedule ends up with an every-other-weekend visitation schedule. Such visitation schedules doom such workers to parenting failure. The every-other-weekend visitation schedule is predicated on the idea that both […]

Discovery for defending domestic violence allegations in family court cases

Allegations of domestic violence in family court cases are often akin to shock grenades: intend to knock the other party back and on the defensive. When these allegations are accompanied by substantial corroborating evidence, they can have significant impacts on custody and alimony rulings.  Because most domestic violence occurs in private, the court’s determination of […]

Orders of paternity

One area where law and culture are not congruent is the issue of paternity for children born out of wedlock. In many cases the parents of such children “know” who the father is and act accordingly (know is in quotes because sometimes the putative father’s understanding of his paternity is not accurate). For children born […]

The dangers of dating before divorce (or before a final order of separate maintenance)

People coming out of an unhappy marriage are often eager to begin dating. Yet there are risks in dating before one is divorced.  My preference as the attorney is that my clients don’t date until they are divorced (or at least until they have a final order of separate maintenance): a client who doesn’t date […]

Odd skirmishes in the battle over credibility

I recently completed a lengthy custody and divorce trial in which the judge asked both attorneys to draft proposed orders. This required us to consider the factual findings we wanted this judge to make. Given that issues of the parties’ credibility would impact all the contested issues, it required a consideration what is meant by […]